Comments on: December 1, 2004 Journal Entry

By: Kim

Kim — Fri, 11 Jul 2008 03:40:20 +0000

Yep, I remember being there. Well, me in NJ you in IN, but you know what I mean. It was so hard. But now looking back I am glad for the challenges. Not sure I would feel the same without my happy endings but I don’t want to think about that.

By: Brandygirl

Brandygirl — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 22:50:44 +0000

TTC-ing with no success is really the hardest that my DH and I have been through too.

I am hoping for hope that you’ll find your resolution soon.

*hugs*

By: Ginnie

Ginnie — Tue, 08 Jul 2008 03:59:01 +0000

I know your husband from high school; he recently friended me on Facebook so I came to check out how he and his family were doing. Your post struck a deep chord inside me, as I’m sure it does for everyone who has suffered from infertility. I’ll give you the happy ending first…we have three beautiful children now! But there were several long years there where I was pretty certain everyone I knew was blessed with the children they wanted (and even some they didn’t know they wanted) except for me and my husband. We started TTC in early 1998. 18 months went by with nothing. After discovering we had male factor issues, during the next 12 months we went though 8 IUI’s (with fortunately insurance covered most of). Still nothing. So, like you, we became Dave Ramsey gazelles in anticipation of the huge expense of IVF. We didn’t have your luck though…:-)…although I distinctly remember that pregnancy test and joking with DH about how maybe it had all been a test and God would reward us at that point! We were fortunate though, in that our first IVF (with just one fledgling embryo left to transfer) was a complete success and in Oct 2001 our son Ryan was born. I was pretty certain that our second attempt (sibling!) wouldn’t possibly be successful on the first try, but after transferring two embryos, our boy/girl twins were born in Sept 2003. It’s funny how before IVF, there was no way I would have every considered us to be fortunate or “lucky” in any way related to fertility. But now, whenever thinking about our journey, I feel *very* fortunate, very “lucky”, very blessed that it was “only” that easy for us. There are so many others who have gone through countless IVF attempts, and/or suffered from adoption mis-placements who still ache for a child to love. It’s amazing how the perspective changes!

By: Nic

Nic — Mon, 07 Jul 2008 18:45:53 +0000

You got me again.

We hadn’t been ttc long, but a ‘friend’ had another friend…and wasn’t being entirely true (I am a very faithful friend and expect the same)….sooooo, we’d been ttc say…9m I think. I got pregnant. And lost it about 4 days after AF was due.

We went to a Summer Gala event at work, and manning one of the stalls was the friend of the ‘friend’. I knew within seconds of looking at her she was pregnant, and I just blurted out the question. She was. Don’t ask me how I knew. I said a mumbled congrats through the start of tears and literally ran away from the stall. Grabbed DH and said we have to leave NOW.

We were invited to another friend’s BBQ afterwards, but DH had to stop the car on a little lane while I sobbed at what felt like the injustice. Not only was she ‘nicking’ my friend, but now she had my baby too.

Not logical, I know, but sheeeshh….just one of the many difficult moments along that stony road.

We’ve come a long way hon xxx